Ang Shu, Li (Gloria) is a 10th-grade student in SPAS, who had just recently arrived at this campus. By having the same Psychology class with her, I soon found out that Gloria is a very cute girl, who loves to smile and spread positive energy, making others feel as energetic as she is. With the experience of living in the United States before, she also gained the ability to speak fluent English with a beautiful accent. Like everybody else, she has faced her own failures, while continuing to learn from them.

From Gloria’s perspective, encountering failures is an inevitable concept that has both positive and negative sides for people. People tend to avoid failure, for they often come with the shadow of shame and frustration; yet they can still learn from the past failures. By summarizing the drawbacks, they have made, students can continue building, and strengthening their characters. It is hard to admit that once something was considered “failed”, bravery and confidence become obstacles. Students should merely climb ahead to go around it. Gloria’s failure is very common for students who are studying abroad or left their homeland when they are very young.

Gloria begins with the fairly common adolescent problem: Socializing. Indeed, social relationships are very hard to manage, especially for those who are not good at socializing. “I didn't know how to socialize with others for a long time.” She states in a brief interview. It is hard for Gloria to socialize with others or build a stable relationship with friends. Being a lady who went to America at a very young age and transferred to study at home in the 4th grade of elementary school, Gloria has been all too familiar with the struggle.

The experience of being alone and taking care of herself on her own led her to become very pleased very easily. If someone treated her well with an equal amount of love, she would, in turn, reciprocate. Still, past failures often lead people to wonder whether they should keep persisting in their goals. When encountering stress, she could not solve this obstacle very well, which caused her to have depression and other unhealthy mental problems, and this self-harm had severely damaged both her mental and physical health.

Nevertheless, Gloria persisted in overcoming these problems and possesses the capability of how to manage these problems, better and better. She believes that students “…need to reconcile [them] selves reasonably.” The pain of difficulty and failure are not easy ones to overcome; however, we should not indulge in the pain, letting our negative emotions control us entirely. What we can do the next time is to learn and summarize from the failure; thereby, succeeding the next time. Although the process of encouraging and believing in yourself is hard, only in this way can we become better and stronger.

The self-example from Gloria when she fails is to go to the gym and exercise, making her more beautiful intrinsically and extrinsically. Also, she will go to Starbucks for coffee with friends and hang out with them or cook herself a delicious meal, followed by a nap. These are all healthy ways to reconcile with oneself, and after those, it is never too late to do better the next time and try not to make the same mistake again. As a wish to everyone: “Failure is a good thing, and it means that we will win more success in the future.”